Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Rights of Children

04 Dec 2012
Only few pages taken from book
The Rights of Children      31 pages book can be downloaded from any of the 3 links
For each right either verse from Holy Quran is presented or hadith is mentioned
 (Written by: Mirza Ehteshamuddin Ahmed)

         All praises are for Almighty, Most Merciful Allah, and may peace descend upon his final prophet, the mercy to this universe, Muhammad and all those who follow his way until the Last Day.
        Children are the fruits of the marital relationship and a pleasure in this life. In fact, parents must train their children so that they become solace (comfort, support, coolness) of their eyes in this life and hereafter. The responsibility of Children lies on parents (both mother and father), they would be accountable on the day of judgement for their children's upbringing religious education ..etc.
Islamic Shari`ah (i.e. Islamic Law) gives extensive details about each and every aspect of life. Islam is a complete way of life.

        Parent-child relation is a reciprocal one. Scholars have categorized “The Rights of Children (Duties and responsibilities of Parents)” into 10 basic rights which are as follows

(1) Upon birth-   (1a) give him or her good name
   (1b) Adhan in the ear (1d) circumcise him.
   (1d) Make Aqiqah [sacrifice], to take some of the baby hair
(2) Children have the right to be protected not to be killed
      (2a) About "FAMILY PLANNING" ask the scholars -
(3) Children have the right to be fed and clothed  
     (3a) Mothers may breastfeed their children 2 years 
     (3b) Children have a right to a standard of living  
     (3c) Pious people's families would all be in Paradise
(4) Right to Education-(4a) Childs first school is mother-
      "mother tongue" is the best language
    (4b) Islamic Education
     (4c) Scientific or worldly matters related education
(5) Right to love and affection
      (5a) Ninety-nine parts of Mercy is with Allah
      (5b) prophet (pbh) loved the children greatly
(6) Right to be well provided (materially)-Welfare of the child
     (6a) Treat the children equally
(7) Arrange/accept a good spouse for your child’s marriage
(8) Adults to give appropriate respect to children
(9) Inheritance rights (birth right or heritage property rights)
(10) Pray for their childrens’ well being-ness
(11) Protect Children from bad friends and evil companions
1 – Upon birth of children
   (1a) give him or her good name
   (1b) Adhan in the ear (1c) circumcise
   (1d) Make Aqiqah [sacrifice], to take some of the baby hair
There is Prophetic tradition narrated by AbuWahb Al-Jushami says: "Keep the names of prophets, the most desirable names by Allah are Abdullah and Abdur-Rahmaan, and names that depict honesty such as Haarith (planter) and Hammaam (thoughtful). The most disliked names are Harb (battle)
and Murrah (bitter)." (Abu Dawood 4932)

2 - Children have the right to be protected
Guidance  from  Holy  Quran
Allah says in Quran:

      (1) "O ye who believe! Save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel is Men and Stones (Surah Al Tahrim 66 / 6)

     (2) Your wealth and your children are but a trial, and Allah has with Him a great reward.  (Al-Taghabun 64/15)

    (3)  And do not kill your children for fear of poverty. We provide for them and for you. Indeed, their killing is ever a great sin. ( Bani Israil 17/31)

   Guidance  from  Sunnah  of  Prophet (pbuh)
        (1) Allah's Apostle, PBH said: "Upon death, man's deeds will (definitely) stop except for three deeds, namely: a continuous charitable fund, endowment or goodwill; knowledge left for people to benefit from; and pious righteous and God-fearing child who continuously prays Allah the Almighty, for the soul of his parents." (Muslim 1631)

       (2) The Prophet (pbh) said, "All of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards. (wards=children, property, possessions....etc.) The ruler is a guardian and the man is a guardian of his family; the lady is a guardian and is responsible for her husband's house and his offspring (children) ; and so all of you are guardians and are responsible for your wards." (Bukhari 7/128)

The  Child  has  a  right  to  life
Neither the father nor the mother have the right to take the life of the child, whether a boy or a girl, by killing it or burying it alive, as was done by some Arabs of jahiliyyah. Young age children's murder is the oppression of a feeble, helpless human being. What would be the answer when Almighty Allah will ask the people “The female child who was buried alive is asked for what crime she was killed.”

"And when the girl [who was] buried alive is asked. For what sin she was killed
(Surah At-Takwir 81/8-9)

3- Children have the Right to be fed and clothed

Mothers   may  nurse (breast-feed)   their   children  for  two complete  years  for  whoever  wishes to complete the nursing
(Surah Baqra 2/233)

4- Right to Education
Child’s   first   School  is  mother
This means a number of things for a Muslim. First, the mother is regarded as the child’s first school and a source of great influence on the child’s character and manners. Islam encourages learning throughout your life.

5- Right to Love and Affection
Our  Prophet (pbuh)  loved   children  greatly
A bedouin came to the prophet (pbh) and said, "You (people) kiss the boys! We don't kiss them." The prophet (pbh) said, "I cannot put mercy in your heart after Allah has taken it away from it."
(Bukhari 8/27)

6-Right to be well provided (materially)
Treat  the  children  equally
Nu'man b. Bashir reported: My father conferred a gift upon me, and then brought me to Allah's Messenger The Holy Prophet pbh
had said: Observe equity amongst your children. (Muslim 3970)

7-Arrange / accept a good spouse for your son’s or daughter’s marriage
First  marriage  or    remarry   son   or   daughter   in case  first spouse  has  died  or  divorced
Narrated by Abu Sa'eed Al-Khudri RA, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: If any- one cares for three daughters, disciplines them, marries them, and
does good to them, he will go to Paradise. (Muslim 5128)

Narrated by Abu Huraira RA, the Prophet said, "The one who looks after a widow or a poor person is like a Mujahid (warrior) who fights for Allah's Cause, or like him who performs prayers all the night and fasts all the day." (Bukhari 7/265)

8- Right to child’s respect
Adults  or  parents  must  give  appropriate  respect  to   children 

Prophet (pbh) while walking through the streets he would offer 'salaam' to children, play and cut jokes with them.  Anas bin Malik reported that he passed by a group of boys and greeted them and said, "The prophet (pbh) used to do so." (Bukhari 8/264)

9- Inheritance Rights
Birth  Right  or  heritage  property  rights  of   children 

10- Parents both father and mother are required to pray for their children’s welfare
You  can  find  10 duas  in  Arabic  and  English  in  my  book   
The Prophet, peace be upon him, said, "The supplications of three persons are accepted, and there is no doubt concerning their acceptance: the supplication of a father, of a traveller, and of one who is wronged (oppressed).' (Reported by Ahmad, At- Tirmidhi,
Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah)

11- Protect Children from bad friends and evil companions
31 pages book can be downloaded from any of the 3 links
For each right either verse from Holy Quran is presented or hadith is mentioned
(Written by: Mirza Ehteshamuddin Ahmed)

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