Monday, September 17, 2012

Rights of Parents

Rights of Parents   
only 4 pages taken from book
  27pages book can be downloaded from any of the 3 links 
 (Written by: Mirza Ehteshamuddin Ahmed)

         A true believer must love Allah most, then more than his ownself he should love Prophet Mohmammed (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him-pbh). Later on, the  aspect or phase of family or human rights stage comes.  Each member of the family has rights and obligations. The preferential sequence of the family rights is mother, father, children, wife, maternal aunt etc.

         Parents give us innumerable (countless) favors. They provide protection, food and clothing to the newly born. The mother sacrifices her comforts and sleep to provide comfort to her children. The father works hard to provide for their physical, educational and psychological (and spiritual) needs.
        It is a matter of common courtesy that if a person does you some favor you feel obliged to him. Verbally you say 'thank you' to him. You try to repay and compensate him for his gifts and favors. You feel a sense of
gratitude towards him.

        With regard to rights of parents and children I found in some families there are violations (disobedience) to islamic teachings, either due to lack of knowledge or according to adopted customs prevailing in their places.

     The aim of this book is to help a common man, children in particular understand their parents’ rights according the islamic teachings guided by the noble Qur'an and sayings of holy Prophet Mohammed (Allah's peace and blessings be upon him).

     As parents grow old their energies also decline. So it is the duty of children to help their parents in any household work in which they can help. Treating one's parents with honour also requires sustaining (supporting) them with the living costs when they are needy.

Guidance to Children from Quran and Sunnah
(a) Pious peoples' families would be in Paradise (Surah Al-Ra'd 13/22-24)
(b) "Three supplications are surely acceptable" (an oppressed, a traveler,  and parents supplications for children)-(Hadith At- Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud & Ib Majah)
(c) Who cuts off relations of kinship will not enter paradise  (Bukhari 8/13)
(d) Want more wealth - keep good relations with relatives  (Bukhari 8/14-15)

Rights of Parents (Duties of children)

(1)Right to be respected and be kind to them
       (1a) Respect parents even if they are non muslims (Surah Luqman 31/14)
       (1b) What are the Best deeds-Be good and dutiful to your parents (Muslim)
       (1c) Who is more entitled to be treated best   "Your mother" (Bukhari 8/2)
       (1d) You have an ambition to go to Paradise, but how? (Tirmizi, Ahmad..)

(2) Right to be Obedient to parents
        (2a) Allah has preferred obeying and honoring the parents to Jihad! (Bukh
        (2b) Showing Disrespect to One's Parents  (Surah Al-Ahqaf 46/17)
       (2c) MAJOR SINS among them Disobedience to parents (Bukhari 8/290, M
       (2d) Major sin - Any one abuses other person's parents he abuses his own
              parents (Bukhari 8/15, Al-Hakim, Ahmad)
       (2e) Only place when you can't obey them (Surah Al-Ankabut 29/8)

(3) Right to be helped financially (give money to parents)
    (3a) Pious people's families would all be in Paradise  (Surah Al-Ra'd 13/22-24)
(4) Rights of Inheritance (things, property,money distribution (Surah 2/180)
(5) Parents have the right to scold and sometimes beat their children    
 (6) After parents Death
       (6a) To hold muslim parents funeral prayers and complete the burial per
  shariah method, for non-muslim parents no burial prayers (Surah Al-Tauba 9/84)
     (6b) Ask Forgiveness to Allah to pardon my parents  (Quran Surah Ibrahim 14/41; Al-Israa 17/24 ;  Ash-Shuaraa 26/86, At-Tauba 9/114 ; Al-Ahqaf 46/15;  An-Naml 27/19)
      (6c) The child must pay debts of parents or fulfill any promises or oaths
           they made to anyone in their life (Bukhari 4/780, Muslim 17/1085 ; 20/4649)
      (6d) The child must observe Ramdhan fast the unfasted days of her dead
            mother (Muslim 6/2555)
      (6e) The child must perform Hajj if her dead mother vowed for Hajj (Bukhari
              3/77; 9/419)
      (6f) To pay due regards to bonds of relationship from parents side.
·         Cut off relations of kinship will not enter paradise
·         More wealth should keep good relations of relatives
(7) The optional (not obligatory) acts after death of parents
      (7a) Distribute charity on behalf of dead parents
      (7b) Meet parents friends in humble way     
 "Three supplications are surely acceptable"
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, "Three supplications are surely acceptable: the supplication of the oppressed, the traveler and the parents for their children.”(At- Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud & Ib Majah)

One who cuts off relations of kinship will not enter paradise:
Narrated Jubair bin Mut'im
 (RA): That he heard the Prophet saying, "The person who cuts the bond of kinship will not enter Paradise."

Who wants more wealth should keep good relations of relatives  
Narrated Abu Huraira(RA): I heard Allah's Apostle (pbh) saying, "Who ever is pleased that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin."  (Bukhari 8/14)

  • Narrated Anas bin Malik(RA): Allah 's Apostle (pbh) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin."  (Bukhari 8/15)
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "Allah created the creations, and when He finished from His creations, Ar-Rahm i.e., womb said, "(O Allah) at this place I seek refuge with You from all those who sever me (i.e. sever means break or disunite the ties of Kith and kin). Allah said, 'Yes, won't you be pleased that I will keep good relations with the one who will keep good relations with you, and I will sever the relation with the one who will sever the relations with you.' It said, 'Yes, O my Lord.' Allah said, 'Then that is for you ' " Allah's Apostle added. "Read (in the Qur'an) if you wish, the Statement of Allah:'Would you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land and sever your ties of kinship?' (47.22) (Bukhari 8/16)

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