Rights of Parents
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(Written by: Mirza Ehteshamuddin Ahmed)
The Rights
of Parents
A true believer must love Allah most, then more than his own self he
should love Prophet Mohmammed (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him-pbh).
Later on, the aspect or phase of family
or human rights stage comes. Each member
of the family has rights and obligations. The preferential sequence of the
family rights is mother, father, children,
wife, maternal aunt etc.
Parents give us innumerable
(countless) favors. They provide protection, food and clothing to the newly
born. The mother sacrifices her comforts and sleep to provide comfort to her
children. The father works hard to provide for their physical, educational and
psychological (and spiritual) needs.
It is a matter of common courtesy that if a person does you some favor
you feel obliged to him. Verbally you say 'thank you' to him. You try to repay
and compensate him for his gifts and favors. You feel a sense of
gratitude towards him.
With regard to rights of parents and children I found in some families
there are violations (disobedience) to islamic teachings, either due to lack of
knowledge or according to adopted customs prevailing in their places.
The aim of this book is to help a common man, children in particular
understand their parents rights according the islamic teachings guided by the
noble Qur'an and sayings of holy Prophet Mohammed (Allah's peace and blessings
be upon him).
As parents grow old their energies also decline. So it is the duty of
children to help their parents in any household work in which they can help.
Treating one's parents with honour also requires sustaining (supporting) them
with the living costs when they are needy.
Guidance to Children from Quran and Sunnah
(a) Pious peoples' families would be in Paradise
(Surhah Al-Ra’d 13/22-24)
(b) "Three supplications are surely
acceptable" (an oppressed, a traveler,
and parents supplications for children)-
(Hadith
At- Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud & Ib Majah)
(c) Who cuts off relations of kinship will not
enter paradise (Bukhari 8/13)
(d) Want more wealth - keep good relations
with relatives (Bukhari 8/14-15)
Rights of Parents (Duties of children)
(1) Right to be respected and be kind to them
(1a) Respect parents even if they are non muslims (Surah Luqman 31/14)
(1b) What are the Best deeds-Be good and dutiful to your parents (Muslim)
(1c) Who is more entitled to be treated best YOUR MOTHER (Bukhari 8/2)
(1d) You have an ambition to go to Paradise, but how? (Tirmizi, Ahmad..)
(2) Right to be Obedient to parents
(2a) Allah has preferred obeying and honoring the parents to Jihad!
(Bukh
(2b) Showing Disrespect to One's Parents
(Surah Al-Ahqaf 46/17)
(2c) MAJOR SINS among them Disobedience to parents (Bukhari 8/290, M
(2d) Major sin - Any one abuses other person's parents he abuses his own
parents (Bukhari 8/15, Al-Hakim, Ahmad)
(2e) Only place when you can't obey them (Surah Al-Ankabut 29/8)
(3) Right to be helped financially (give money
to parents)
(3a)
Pious people's families would all be in Paradise (Surah Al-Ra'd 13/22-24)
(4) Rights of Inheritance (things,
property,money distribution (Surah 2/180)
(5) Parents have the right to scold and sometimes
beat their children
(6) After parents Death
(6a) To hold muslim parents funeral prayers and complete the burial per
shariah method, for non-muslim parents no burial prayers (Surah Al-Tauba 9/84)
(6b) Ask Forgiveness to Allah to pardon my parents (Quran Surah Ibrahim 14/41;
Al-Israa 17/24 ; Ash-Shuaraa 26/86, At-Tauba 9/114 ; Al-Ahqaf 46/15; An-Naml 27/19)
(6c) The child must pay debts of parents or fulfill any promises or
oaths
they made to anyone in their life (Bukhari 4/780, Muslim 17/1085 ; 20/4649)
(6d) The child must observe Ramdhan fast the unfasted days of her dead
mother (Muslim 6/2555)
(6e) The child must perform Hajj if her dead mother vowed for Hajj (Bukhari 3/77; 9/419)
(6f) To pay due regards to bonds of relationship from parents side.
Cut off relations of kinship will not enter
paradise
More wealth should keep good relations of
relatives
(7) The optional (not obligatory) acts after
death of parents
(7a) Distribute charity on behalf of dead parents
(7b) Meet parents friends in humble way
“ Three
supplications are surely acceptable”
The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said,
"Three supplications are surely acceptable: the supplication of the
oppressed, the traveler and the parents for their children.”(At- Tirmidhi, Abu Dawud & Ib Majah)
One who cuts off relations of kinship will not
enter paradise
Narrated Jubair bin Mut'im
(RA): That he heard the Prophet saying, "The person who cuts the bond of kinship will not enter Paradise."
Who wants more wealth should keep good relations
of relatives
Narrated Abu Huraira(RA): I heard Allah's
Apostle (pbh) saying, "Who ever is pleased that he be granted more wealth
and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations
with his Kith and kin." (Bukhari 8/14)
Narrated Anas bin Malik(RA): Allah 's Apostle
(pbh) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his
lease of life be prolonged then he should keep good relations with his Kith and
kin." (Bukhari 8/15)
Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said,
"Allah created the creations, and when He finished from His creations,
Ar-Rahm i.e., womb said, "(O Allah) at this place I seek refuge with You
from all those who sever me (i.e. sever means break or disunite the ties of
Kith and kin). Allah said, 'Yes, won't you be pleased that I will keep good
relations with the one who will keep good relations with you, and I will sever
the relation with the one who will sever the relations with you.' It said,
'Yes, O my Lord.' Allah said, 'Then that is for you ' " Allah's Apostle
added. "Read (in the Qur'an) if you wish, the Statement of Allah: 'Would
you then, if you were given the authority, do mischief in the land and sever
your ties of kinship?' (47.22) (Bukhari 8/16)
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Compiled by Mirza Ehteshamuddin Ahmed
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